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I have a confession to make. I have a pet peeve – this pet peeve is now to some extent socially accepted as a compliment. Heck, some even argue that jealousy is the biggest compliment. Let’s begin with breaking it down. First, what is the actual meaning of jealousy? And how is the word being thrown around today?
The Cambridge Dictionary describes jealousy means is explained in two different ways. First, ”upset and angry because someone that you love seems interested in another person”. And ”unhappy and angry because someone has something that you want”. To me this isn’t something I can relate to nor want to relate to. On a personal note, I never (and I really mean never) get jealous of anyone. Inspired, yes! Motivated, yes! But looking at someone else life or accomplishments never gets me thinking negative thoughts – actually the opposite. Other peoples success is actually what fuels me, it inspires me to take a different approach to my goals or simple just inspires me to feel ”ah I can do that too”. And then I do it.
But today, going through my social media comments I notice from time to time that someone has declared their jealousy. And even if that person does not intend it the way the word is describes, it gets problematic. For once you’re using words in a wrong way, and it doesn’t make any sense. Just like I would state that the sky is yellow but I actually meant blue. Say what you mean, and be mindful of the words you use. Not only for those who hear/read them but also for yourself. When I think of the word jealousy, the word ‘lack’ rings loud in my head. I wish more could be aware of how they express themselves because words are as much energy as anything else – why would want more negativity (lack) in your life?
There’s a phrase is Swedish that translates to ”The Swedish Jealousy”. It’s deeply rooted in Jante law, I’ll give it a short explanation to those whom never heard of this law. Wikipedia describes it ”that negatively portrays and criticises individual success and achievement as unworthy and inappropriate”. Basically, the law state that one should think of themselves as better as others and been decided into ten different laws. Although I am not sure of the origin and purpose of these laws, I am a firm believer that the consequence is jealousy. Simple physiology, what happens to emotions that gets oppressed? They come out stronger and most likely in a negative manner.
But if you’re aware that you tend to burst out comments such as ”I’m so jealous”, because someone is doing something you’d like to do–please think again and use your words accordingly. Not only for the sake of the other person but most of all yourself, try to be happy for others progress instead of wishing it was you instead of them. Instead go for ”If they can do it, then I sure can do it”. It’s a genuin matter of attitude of perception towards yourself, and you’d be surprised what starts to unfold once you focus in how you can achieve whatever is making you jealous.
Unfortunately, the word jealous is being thrown around as ”I want that too”, but that’s not the whole meaning of it. But when you know better–you do better as Maya Angelou said. What are your thought on the subject?
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